Wedding Invitation Wording Guide

Following the Wedding Invitation Guide that I posted on My Big Fat DIY Wedding a while back, I realise that there is something missing. I also decided that this topic could do with its own post altogether as it can sometimes get a bit confusing. The topic of this post is the wedding invitation wording.

Who knew that the wording on your wedding invitation is yet another thing that you and your Husband/Wife-to-be need to research and eventually choose? But alas it is, and what the wording ends up being on the invitation is dictated by some interesting things.

The wording on the wedding invitation is mainly dictated by who is hosting the wedding and in large part, that is dictated by who is paying for the wedding. Each country/heritage has its own traditions: in some its the bride’s family who should host the wedding and in others its the groom’s. Nowadays, it is often the bride and groom themselves who host and pay for their own wedding, so invitation wording has been adapted to be quite flexible depending on the situation.

In this guide we are not going to dictate tradition, or state who should/shouldn’t be hosting the wedding, but we will simply provide you with the various options in wording to help you choose the one that suits your wedding/invitation best.

You can do a pick and choose from the wording below:


– Parents of Bride or Groom (married): Mr & Mrs John Smith…
– Parents of Bride or Groom (divorced): Mrs. Karen Smith & Mr. John Smith…
– Bride & Groom: Together with their families, Jane Smith & James Young…  /  Together with their families, Jane and James…



– Religious Ceremony: ‘Request the honour of your presence…’
– Civil Ceremony: ‘Request the pleasure of your company…’  /  ‘Invite you to join us as we celebrate…’
– Description of ceremony: ‘at the/to celebrate the wedding of…’  /  ‘at the/to celebrate the union of…’



– Depending on how formal the invitation (and wedding) is, you can include the Bride & Groom’s name as you see fit. Normally, the bride’s name would come first, followed by the Groom’s name. First names, middle names and surnames can be included but again, it depends on what sounds best for you.



– Usually the date and time is spelt out.
– The month and the day are normally capitalized.
– When writing the year out, do not include the word ‘and’: Two Thousand Fourteen (not Two Thousand and Fourteen).
– As with most sections of the wedding invitation, there is certainly room for flexibility with the time and date, depending on your wedding and your invitation.



– Normally, only the name of the venue(s) is written on the invitation.
– The address would traditionally go on the information inserts, which come extra to the main invitation, but this is not always needed. See our Wedding Invitation Guide for more on this!



– ‘Reception to follow’
– ‘Dinner and Dancing to follow’
– Anything that is specific to your wedding/guests!



Mr & Mrs John Smith,
Request the pleasure of your company
To celebrate the union of
Jane Smith & James Young
On Saturday Ninth August, Two Thousand Fourteen at Three O’Clock in the Afternoon
At Eynsham Hall, Witney
Reception to Follow

As with most things relating to your wedding, what you end up choosing is entirely up to you and your Groom/Bride. Whatever you do, make sure that your wedding and your personalities shine through – it’s no use writing a very formal invitation if you’re both fairly laid back and if your wedding is going to be a casual do. Play around with all the options. Most online wedding invitation websites, allow you to play around with wording on an online proof, so give it a go. Keep tinkering until you find your voice as Bride and Groom.

Once you come to the right wording for you, you’ll know it! Nothing makes your wedding like you do, so don’t be shy, go for it but above all, enjoy!

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